Ask An Ex

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Hi everyone this is Nasia Davos and welcome to this episode of Ask An Ex.

Today, I have someone with me who joined the CBQ program and whose persistence and never-give-up attitude helped her quit but have also inspired many others to succeed as well. So if you believe that quitting is impossible, if you’re afraid of failure and relapse or if you think you can’t do it, stay with us.

The ex I have with me today not only quit smoking after 35 years, but after she quit she overcame challenges that would have made most people relapse but she is still a happy nonsmoker.

Please welcome Diane Felix

Nasia: Diane, thank you so much for being here

Diane: Thank you for having me.

Nasia: So you have been a non-smoker for more than a year and a half now right?

Diane: Yes I have

Nasia: The 15th of March 2018

Diane: Yes the 15th of March 2018

Nasia: Huge congratulations this is an extraordinary achievement

Diane: Thank you, it Is, you’re right, I’m very proud of myself

Nasia: Well, you should be, it’s no small feat. So you smoked for

35 years how did you start smoking?

Diane: I started smoking when I was a teenager in high school, my sister’s smoked, my parents smoked it was cool back in the 80s and my mother actually said to me at one point when she knew I was smoking, she said “I thought you would be the smart one” and the same year that I started smoking, she quit. So my parents quit actually right after I started smoking but I was addicted and I was a teenager and it was cool.

Nasia: Yeah, so I remember when you succeeded you sent an email and you said I did it I quit this time I was ready mentally ready

Diane:  Definitely.

Nasia: How did you know that you were ready?

Diane: Well I was concerned about my health and I think that that was probably the largest driving force. I had like every other person who smokes you wanted to quit every day. You don’t want to be a smoker, you know that it’s hurting you and then it’s costing you money and it’s costing you time. So I did get mad at it, and but I had a cough and I am well, I guess I was 51 at the time and I had wanted to when I was 50. So, I didn’t make the 50th birthday mark but I said I have to do this otherwise I’m not going to see my grandchildren and all the

other things so I mentally said I have to do this, period. And I didn’t know how I was going to do it though.

Nasia: Was it the first time you tried?

Diane:  I did quit for a year in 2008 and I never did smoke another cigarette again but I was smoking cigars occasionally and then I became an addict again and I smoked them every day. So, for 10 more years, yeah, 10 more years. So, I knew that I had to, I knew I had to, I had to figure this out. I think that really it’s really mental.

Nasia:  Yes, definitely! Definitely, you’re right about that. Before you quit what worried you the most about starting an attempt?

Diane: Not being able to cope. It’s a definite fear. And I remember twice the day in 2008 when I decided that I was going to quit, I had to call a helpline hmm because the anxiety was so strong and that was just deciding the day, that wasn’t quitting it, was deciding the day. But it was similar when I decided to buy your program, to make that purchase.

Nasia: What maybe you decide to try the CBQ method?

Diane: You were on my Facebook, I saw you, I found you on Facebook and I said I’m going to, it’s different, it’s a different approach and I did not want to take any drugs that was really an important thing to me. I’m really trying to be more holistic now in my approach to life

Nasia: In general

Diane: In general, right, so I don’t take any medication and I don’t like medications and so I did not want to use drugs again. And I did not want to, some people I know have used the puffer things and I knew that that was just prolonging one addiction for another and the same with the patches, the same thing. It’s all the same right you’re just kind of putting a band aid on and trying another addiction. So I knew that my biggest fear was that I would gain weight. And which I struggle have with, so I’ll have to work really hard at that. And that I would be unhappy.

Nasia: Okay so, being unhappy gaining weight and afraid that you’re not going to be able to cope

Diane: Yes

Nasia: And fast-forward, you had to deal with all three of your fears.

Diane: Yes

Nasia: As far as I know right

Diane: Absolutely, yes. However my mindset was simply, I’m not going to do this anymore so as soon as I would have a thought if I wanted to have smoke I would say but you don’t do that anymore. Every time I would look say I don’t do that anymore.  I also used a lot of positive affirmations and I had them, I had them on sticky notes and I had them everywhere in my house. Yes, I put them up when I was doing the program, as you spoke many of them I wrote them on sticky notes and I pasted them on the walls, in the area that I studied. And I

was very adamant about studying and making sure and I did at the same time every day so I did prepare myself for the course.

Nasia: Yeah

Diane: Yes, so and I’m not at my residence right now however those sticky notes are all still there.

Nasia: Wow!

Diane: Yes.

Nasia: And you know I remember them, and you had I am a happy non-smoker, I respect myself,

Diane: Yes

Nasia: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional, and that was my favourite

Diane: Yes

Nasia: So how did all those sticky notes help you on your journey?

Diane: It was changing my mindset. From believing that those smokes or the cigarettes or my cigars were actually what I needed to cope or to deal with life or to not eat. And that helped me to realize, it was me. It was not those folks, I needed to do that. I needed to train myself that I can trust in myself and be able to overcome with just my own mind and not addiction

Nasia: And this is so powerful! And I noticed following your journey that you were someone who understood the power of thoughts. You understood that the way you communicated to yourself about smoking, about quitting and about everything, really, that it has the power to make or, break you, so you got that!

Diane:  Yes, yes I wasn’t in denial.

Nasia:  No, but I’m saying that because not everyone understands how important it is the way we talk to ourselves

Diane: Oh absolutely! I actually, since then have done a lot of meditation and just simply you know with your phone, your cellphone and headphones whether, I’m yeah, because it’s so important with everything in life that you want to do. I mean everything that you want is on the other side of fear.

Nasia: Correct!

Diane:  That’s another saying that I had, so you have to mentally be able to overcome and I also have a background of I was a single mother my whole life, I’ve had multiple jobs, nobody’s ever taken care of me. So, I’m a very independent person and though it was that nicotine that I relied on, I could do anything else I could be the single mother, I was this hard worker or I could buy, whatever, I wanted I did things all by myself, always, very independent. However, I had that crutch and that was what I believe it or not it wasn’t people that I’ve ever relied on, yeah and I when I was doing some of the work, I found that out like, oh my god, I am relying on these this package this package of cigars or cigarettes for my, for my everything in life. This is nuts, this is crazy! So, that was that was like a defining moment too. Like, I can, I have to do this myself.

Nasia: And it’s this is nothing alignment with with, who you are I mean you’re independent about everything, you take care of everyone else,

Diane:  Yes

Nasia: And you have this to control you, I mean no

Diane:  Exactly!

Nasia: Okay.

Diane: I did some writings too about you know making them write to them, to write to the addiction, right to the nicotine, right to the smokes on a journal, to make it go away, to say I

don’t like you, you know, long time control me it blah blah, a letter.

Nasia: So you did that every day, once in a while?

Diane:  Just very a real one so I could reread it if I needed to.

Nasia: Okay, all right and do you still really go back and read?

Diane:  It’s in it’s in New York but yes, I could still have it

Nasia: Okay. And which when you had like a craving and which thought or mantra helped you the most in your journey?

Diane: Certainly, what I did in the, because I thought the cravings didn’t last very long, the physical cravings, they didn’t, they didn’t last very long at all. So that I just told myself for the first week,it probably was a week, you’re not doing that, you you’re not doing that anymore, you’re not doing that anymore. Just to get through that craving. I did do some breathing and I certainly keep myself busy. I’ve always exercised, so even when I was a smoker I exercised.  

Nasia: Yeah

Diane: So I knew that that was going to be wildly important to do. So I had to overcome pain and I don’t take medication remember. So I had to figure out how am I going to now do

these exercises because I need to, because I don’t want to be heavy I don’t want to be hurt. Nasia: How did you do this?

Diane: Yeah I, just consistency every day you have to you have to stay abroad on your own self, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and say I’m going to do this and you have to do it every day. And you can’t allow other people or other influences to take that away from you. So I was giving this to me, this was it I don’t often do a lot for myself but this time I was doing it for me.

Nasia: And the hardest part I guess for many smokers is allowing themselves, the time to figure this out and be patient with themselves and love themselves a bit and put yourself as a priority for a bit, it’s hard.

Diane: It’s very hard, I struggled. I did struggle, I went, I did feel depressed in the beginning probably for six months actually.

Nasia:  Let’s talk about that, that was a huge challenge, you were able to overcome.

Diane: Remember, and it was seasonally,  it was by that time it was winter,  which isn’t which isn’t as much fun mentally. Anyways, so seasonally I think that I probably had to deal with it too, I really did have some depression. So I was not going to go to the doctor’s and take any type of drugs I because I just don’t do that. I just didn’t want to, so I did research

from some of what you had already given on the teas and I’m a tea drinker anyway, so I did start taking some ashwagandha root and 5htp yeah and I still do.

Nasia: And it helped?

Diane:  Yes I’ve gone off it for a time period and there’re periods when I’ve gone not taking it and I realized that I get a little bit short, a little bit irritable.

Nasia: Okay, interesting!

Diane:  Yep, so I have kept, I do keep taking it, I mean it’s all natural, so yeah. But I was in

about six months and then I noticed that it did actually subside a lot.

Nasia: And what else did you do to get through this? The six months?

Diane: I did, probably, a lot of exercise, when I could with because I was going through some pain at the time, some physical pain from the arthritis so I did exercise and I’m consistent even with the pain. I’m talking at least three times a week.

Nasia: Wow!

Diane: And I did a lot of walking. I did try very hard to take care of myself emotionally and allow that and tell myself it’s okay. Pat yourself on the back, you did it, breath, allow this, allow this strange behaviour, it’s okay

Nasia: Thank you for sharing that, because I hope everyone can hear that. Just allow yourself to feel the way you feel and go through it the way you’re going through it.

Diane: Yeah! And don’t hurt, don’t beat yourself up. Say okay this is, think about it, you smoked for 35 years and give yourself credit. Allow yourself to just, whatever happens be okay with it. You’re gonna be okay.

Nasia: Yeah, because when we see someone smoking, there’s a memory that comes back. It’s not a desire, it’s just a memory.

Diane:  Yes.

Nasia: You think ahead of the memory of how you will feel ten minutes after smoking, or half an hour after smoking or being addicted, this the desire just evaporates.

Diane: Exactly, exactly like that. It has nothing to do with a craving, a physical craving. It has to do with an emotional craving.

Nasia: Yeah

Diane: And now you have to fill those emotional with something different whether it be productive or not or maybe I can take a break.

Nasia: Definitely! So how did it feel the moment you smoked your last cigarette if you can remember?

Diane: Yeah I actually quit on day eight.

Nasia:  Yes, I remember that

Diane: Day eight not ten because I had gotten down to two yes and I was frustrated so I said this is crazy. I’m not prolonging this, you know for myself just be done. So I think the last one was nine o’clock at night if I recall. And I didn’t necessarily know it was my last one because I didn’t give it that weight.

Nasia:  Okay, you just let it be.

Diane: I just let it be and then when I got up I said I’m not doing this again. I’m not going to do this to myself because it was really hard to do just to

Nasia:  Yes

Diane: So I said I’m not doing this.

Nasia:  So I’m not doing this is a quote, a phrase that really helps you

Diane: Yes it did. It really did.

Nasia: Yeah and I remember you challenged yourself and you quit before the predetermined quit date so you felt in control.

Diane:  Yes

Nasia: What part of the program helped you the most in your whole journey?

Diane: Journaling, well certainly cutting down obviously.

Nasia: Yeah

Diane: I already I was probably a little bit ahead because I already was not smoking for an hour before I after I got up because that’s what I exercise.

Nasia: Okay

Diane: I always get up in the morning and exercise and I didn’t smoke till after, being consistent with doing the work because you do have to cut out that time for yourself.

Nasia: Yeah

Diane: And it’s probably an hour and a half if I recall each morning I spent an hour

and a half.

Nasia: So if you want to make the most out of it, yeah.

Diane: Yes oh right true, yes you really do, otherwise you’re cutting yourself short. And you deserve to have that time for yourself for 10 days for crying out loud really think about. So it was the slowly cutting down and then also journaling and realizing how silly you are when you start writing down why you’re doing it. And what you’re doing, if you’re honest with yourself then you’re looking at this like you know this is this is craziness.

Nasia: Yeah all the emotions go away when you look at that.

Diane: Right! Yeah ,so I used the app I thought I found that to be encouraging and when you look at, you know the thousands of dollars that you’ve saved

Nasia: Yeah you saved a lot, right?

Diane: Yeah it’s over 6,000 now

Nasia: Wow!

Diane: Yeah, exactly so when I purchased your program at the time I thought that at the time it was one month of my spending and I said I deserve that I deserve to spend one month I do I deserve this. And that’s the difference, you need to tell yourself you deserve this you’re doing it. You’re doing it because you’re going to do it. Not because everybody says that you have to quit smoking.

Nasia: Exactly, 100%!

Diane: You know what else I quit? Well, right before I quit smoking I quit drinking soda. Nasia: Good for you!

Diane: And they went together for me. Yes from being, even a teenager when I started smoking, I always had a soda because I didn’t like the taste so I would and then I switched to diet soda of course so I could be thin-ner. And then I quit that ahead of time though. So I really started drinking tea and I still make my own, I make my own.

Nasia: Wow!

Diane: I make my own ice tea and then I drink you know tea at night. I don’t drink coffee at all.

Nasia: Fantastic, so you have a very healthy lifestyle

Diane:  I do so I was the smoker with the very healthy lifestyle, it’s crazy.

Nasia: Wow, good for you! And I like that you treat yourself and you allow yourself to break down when you want to down to have your treat when you want to have it and because that’s life right? It’s never going be all calm or all mad.

Diane: Everything has to be in moderation. I mean if all humans could live in moderation it would be a lot easier on the world but I know that that’s not always the case. So and then you have to forgive yourself, allow yourself and forgive yourself.

Nasia: And also allow yourself, forgive yourself, moderation, consistency and I don’t do that Diane: 

Nasia: Exactly here you go. I love that. So last question what advice would you give to someone who’s struggling to quit right now?

Diane: Don’t give up. When I was a child, actually my dad gave me a plaque and I have it on the wall and I’ll just never forget it. It says you can’t fail if you stop trying so which is true in life. So don’t ever give up. Find what it is inside of you, that will make you be whole with yourself and allow yourself, allow yourself the opportunity to quit, to be yourself, to be you. Don’t beat yourself up and don’t ever give up.

Nasia: Beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing, this very nice. So as you all can see Diane had a journey full of ups and downs and she’s an example of what you can achieve when you take responsibility for your success, take control of your thoughts and stay committed no matter what happens. Because smoking is a mental addiction and cravings are just positive thoughts about smoking, so if you stop thinking good thoughts about smoking and start thinking good thoughts about not smoking and yourself you will succeed. Never give up. So I hope you enjoyed this as much as I did please let us know in the comments what you took away from Diane’s journey that can help you in yours and Diane thank you so much for being here and for being open about everything you went through and your experience and how you succeeded. What you said, it’s really valuable and it will help anyone who’s struggling to quit or struggling to remain smoke free, so really thank you.

Diane:  And thank you Nasia really thank you for doing your journey and helping so many other people I was able to quit with your with your program because it fit for my life and I’m really very grateful.

Nasia: Thank you I’m grateful are our paths crossed and that we were able to meet so thank you all for being here with us have a great day and see you next time.

Transcript

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Hi everyone this is Nasia Davos and
welcome to this episode of Ask An Ex

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today you’ll hear from someone who
joined our CBQ program and who has a

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lot to share with you about her success
in quitting smoking so if you think you

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can’t quit or if you’re struggling to be without

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cigarettes stay with us

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The ex I have
with me today quit smoking after 24

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years overcame all sorts of tempting
situations that life threw at her she’s

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still happy nonsmoker and she’s here to
tell you how she did it

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please welcome Rosa Maria Roca hi Rosa
thank you so much for being here

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Hi Nasia you’re welcome pleasure so you have been
a non smoker for about a year now right

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yeah 12 December 2018 was your quit date
congratulations this is a huge milestone

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thank you yeah it is actually
so proud of myself you should be so

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you’ve been smoking for 24 years how did
you start smoking well with a group of

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friends actually my best friend she she
started and I asked her for for one just

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to try it the silly things you do when
you are a teenager and I found it

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disgusting was horrible but then it was
trendy

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everybody did it so why not yeah makes
sense though I think most of us started

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smoking that way yeah yeah yeah so over
the years did you ever think about

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quitting yes a few times yes especially
when I got sick and I started coughing

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and then the smell again I didn’t like
the smell when I wanted to climb a

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mountain and I couldn’t because I was
just out of breath and yeah with all

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these situations you find yourself stuck
in something that is quitting you the

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freedom to do so do whatever you want on
right and in a healthy and happy way

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yeah but I did it with success so so you wanted to
quit for all those reasons did you ever

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make a serious attempt yes I did
a couple of them were serious the others

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were not serious but the couple of them
do you know what happened it was very

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frustrating because I ended up crying on
the corners of the house oh my god yeah

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it was because I did it on my own
without any help

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vaping it didn’t exist yet I think
patches weren’t as known as they are

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nowadays and so I did it myself
like with willpower yeah just yeah it

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just took me a lot of tears and I
couldn’t in the end I couldn’t just yeah

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relapsed again yeah is this horrible and
last year what what happened and you

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said I’m gonna try to quit again
I turn 40 I had like a painful leg

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because I don’t have an excellent
circulation I think now is much much

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better after that we have to say no more
pain in my leg so it was definitely the

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cigarettes and then the you know I’ve
got two kids and I had to sneak out in

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the garden every time like after the
meals to light a cigarette they were

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calling me because they wanted to play
with me before a reading time before

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going to bed and you know I started to
to find it very horrible actually for

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them they were they are nowadays also
very aware of it so they know it’s

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something bad they were saying mom when
are you gonna quit why do you do it

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do you really need to smoke and I was
asking a great question

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yeah they get to challenge myself when I
said listen it’s now or never it’s now

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or never and I did it thanks to you Nasia well
I’m very happy you found this program

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what made you decide to try the CBQ
method because well I tried patches

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before mm-hmm well last time yeah they
I mean they take the anxiety of the

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urges off but you still have the
cigarettes going on in your mind

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so that and yeah just addicted to them
you still addicted to them the

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difference with your program was that
that um you start from the deep roots of

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smoking so where are the deep roots
that’s what I found and you start

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thinking about why what is making you
continue smoking and all that stuff and

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it makes a difference actually when when
you when you go so deeply and just like

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analyzing why you do it
um well it’s different just have to say

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it’s different I didn’t need any vaping
I didn’t need patches I didn’t need I

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only needed some boxing equipment that
was really cool

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I enjoyed the boxing oh also you did
replace smoking with boxing yeah and you

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bought a home equipment well my son
has one so I I hung well the thing

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don’t even know what is the name and I
mean and and then I imagine myself

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looking at the cigarette yeah
does it look like a little cigarette and

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then just box to it it was
amazingly relaxing hmm I’m very fun I

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think like fighting smile yeah it was
easy and you

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exercise you blow off some steam very very
nice

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great choice yeah I’m happy yeah I was
happy at the time I chose because it

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made me feel so much better I mean the
anxiety went as well because you’re

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obviously doing exercise and and yeah
it’s a sport i sweat as well so I

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burn some calories I did everything in
one perfect

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so obviously that helped you a lot on
your journey

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what other part of the program or your
coping strategies helped you succeed

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so I started to have a better food
better food like healthier food I will

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as well so I introduced to my
diet avocados okay

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say you know in Spain when or maybe my
home we’re not very used to have

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Ricardo’s and in in England they they
are and they still have few friends and

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they started to talk about the vitamins and whatever and I start to be

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more focused on on the healthy food like
going deeper and see what what the

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advantages are and at the end to have
better skin appearance as well because

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yes avocados are great yeah yeah the
cigarettes damage your skin a lot yes

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yes that’s true what else helped you
along the way

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exercising even if it’s going out for
the walk for half an hour if you don’t

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have time to go to the gym yeah whatever
to have some fresh air yeah you are

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stuck in your chores or job problems
just anything that gives you some some

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good well-being right like dancing as
well because I like dancing I

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particularly like dancing with my kids
and listening to the music yeah anything

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you you enjoy basically will help where
are you doing those things before or

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you started doing them more when
you quit smoking I started so I

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started to do them more when I quit but
I yeah I used to do them before also but

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less it’s true less less time cause I
didn’t have much time to that very

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interesting and I know you told me in
the past year you had to overcome a lot

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of tempting situations can you tell me
more about what they were and how you

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overcame them because I think this can
be very very helpful

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it was a challenge I mean going out with
your gin tonic or whatever the red wine

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in your hands and not having the
cigarette in the other hand yeah it’s uh

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it’s quite tough but once you do it and
honestly you drink a couple of glasses

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of wine and the next day you just wake
up there’s no coughing there’s no

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horrible smell taste in your mouth
that’s not it’s no it’s nothing

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yeah you tie it because you went to bed
late but um you feel great and that’s

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another thing that you need to learn to
enjoy from now on great I love that you

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said that so in the moment where you you
were with your friends

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there was the strong association with
cigarettes that you hadn’t had the

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chance to break it because it was
something you hadn’t experienced as a

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nonsmoker yet what did you do in that
moment that allowed you to enjoy

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yourself and your friends without having
to smoke so it’s it quickly came to my

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mind your words like observe and
identify the double trigger okay and I

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actually did and I assumed it I accepted
it and I said listen now this is over

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and you have to learn to enjoy yourself
without it and yeah was like giving a

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lesson to myself because you have to
talk to yourself sometimes to realize

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and to be aware of it and yeah it worked
I I just accepted it and and it helped

0:11:15.730,0:11:24.280
me but another thing that helped me a
lot I have to say is um just realizing

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that it’s it’s a life-changing
experience and I mean that once once you

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you say this is over you need to change
your lifestyle yeah because otherwise if

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you get stuck there and you follow the
same patterns it might not work

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so you need to introduce new new things
and things that make you feel happy and

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better happier what other things did you
introduce the and change your lifestyle

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well actually I have to say that I
enjoyed watching a movie after the meal

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like without having to go out cause it was the
meal then the cigarette and then you

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know and then watching a movie maybe but
like having finished the meal and go to

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the dining room to to watch a movie it’s
amazing without having to well feel the

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flavor that the bad flavor in your
mouth and whatever mm-hmm another thing that makes you feel proud and full

0:12:31.980,0:12:39.009
these little things it’s a it’s
a a chain of little things that make you

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feel just great
exactly and so that’s why I’m asking you

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about it because a lot of people are
struggling selecting and identifying

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those little things that can make a
massive difference in how you feel and

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you not needing cigarettes so what you
did was really smart

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dinner movie it’s amazing helps I also
have a thing that I found interesting is

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like um I bought a few different teas
yes so I’ve got different teas like la

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camomile and then these liquorise with
pepper peppercorn I think so these

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little different things and every time I
need to like have something in my mouth

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because sometimes yeah whatever I go and
have different tea so today I’m gonna

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try another one I’m gonna take this one
because I love it

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or you can be a chewing gum I mean a minty
chewing gum I love chewing I’m just so

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but you know these things these little
treats and I like the idea about the

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teas because you have some variety
trying always something new

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no it’s good very nice so when when you
feel everyone and we all experience

0:14:03.990,0:14:14.570
stress how do you manage stress as a
nonsmoker I’m going out for a walk I

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don’t at home you feel the
atmosphere it’s overwhelmed yeah I go out for

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a walk or I just go upstairs and
sometimes take a bath if I have the time

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I call a friend and just explain her
whatever or having a chat with

0:14:38.010,0:14:44.760
my husband well it’s very helpful if you
are just stressed for anything but in

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the end it’s not worth it that’s a great
mindset so one last question yeah

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what advice or tips would you give to
someone who’s struggling to succeed at

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the moment so that nicotine addiction
just lasts two or three weeks so don’t

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worry you’re not gonna die you will
overcome it

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that is the mind power what will help
you a lot so not the with the willpower

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the mind power that as you said Nastia
in your videos but it’s true but you

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need to cultivate your change once you
believe it just cultivate you change

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that means change your lifestyle
basically or introduce these little

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things into your daily life and you’ll
see the difference

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yeah and do what you love to do thank
you back you’ll see the feedback thank

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you so much for sharing this that was
very very helpful thank you so much very

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good so as you all can see Rosa’s journey
is a great example of perseverance and

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resourcefulness
she had ups and downs like everyone but

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she stayed committed she used the power
of her mind and she did it and this is

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important to remember because there is
no such thing as the perfect quit what

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matters the most is how you approach it
your mindset and your attitude so I hope

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you learned a lot and that you enjoyed
this as much as I did please let us know

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in the comments what you took away from Rosa’s journey that can help you in yours

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and Rosa thank you so much for being
here and sharing your experience it was

0:16:35.850,0:16:43.769
really great and I know it’s gonna help
a lot of people so thank you thank you

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and thank you all for being here with us
have a wonderful day and I’ll see you

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next time