Ask An Ex – Episode 3: How Rosa Quit Smoking with the CBQ Method + Her Quit Smoking Tips You Can Do in Quarantine

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0:00:00.020,0:00:04.820 Hi everyone this is Nasia Davos and welcome to this episode of Ask An Ex 0:00:04.830,0:00:09.480 today you’ll hear from someone who joined our CBQ program and who has a 0:00:09.480,0:00:14.219 lot to share with you about her success in quitting smoking so if you think you 0:00:14.219,0:00:16.980 can’t quit or if you’re struggling to be without 0:00:16.980,0:00:22.540 cigarettes stay with us 0:00:26.000,0:00:28.980 The ex I have with me today quit smoking after 24 0:00:28.980,0:00:34.320 years overcame all sorts of tempting situations that life threw at her she’s 0:00:34.320,0:00:37.890 still happy nonsmoker and she’s here to tell you how she did it 0:00:37.890,0:00:43.370 please welcome Rosa Maria Roca hi Rosa thank you so much for being here 0:00:43.370,0:00:50.940 Hi Nasia you’re welcome pleasure so you have been a non smoker for about a year now right 0:00:50.940,0:01:00.079 yeah 12 December 2018 was your quit date congratulations this is a huge milestone 0:01:00.079,0:01:06.180 thank you yeah it is actually so proud of myself you should be so 0:01:06.180,0:01:15.180 you’ve been smoking for 24 years how did you start smoking well with a group of 0:01:15.180,0:01:22.380 friends actually my best friend she she started and I asked her for for one just 0:01:22.380,0:01:28.350 to try it the silly things you do when you are a teenager and I found it 0:01:28.350,0:01:32.729 disgusting was horrible but then it was trendy 0:01:32.729,0:01:39.750 everybody did it so why not yeah makes sense though I think most of us started 0:01:39.750,0:01:47.549 smoking that way yeah yeah yeah so over the years did you ever think about 0:01:47.549,0:01:55.979 quitting yes a few times yes especially when I got sick and I started coughing 0:01:55.979,0:02:03.360 and then the smell again I didn’t like the smell when I wanted to climb a 0:02:03.360,0:02:10.979 mountain and I couldn’t because I was just out of breath and yeah with all 0:02:10.979,0:02:15.810 these situations you find yourself stuck in something that is quitting you the 0:02:15.810,0:02:21.060 freedom to do so do whatever you want on right and in a healthy and happy way 0:02:21.060,0:02:30.720 yeah but I did it with success so so you wanted to quit for all those reasons did you ever 0:02:30.720,0:02:38.849 make a serious attempt yes I did a couple of them were serious the others 0:02:38.849,0:02:45.120 were not serious but the couple of them do you know what happened it was very 0:02:45.120,0:02:52.739 frustrating because I ended up crying on the corners of the house oh my god yeah 0:02:52.739,0:02:56.280 it was because I did it on my own without any help 0:02:56.280,0:03:03.329 vaping it didn’t exist yet I think patches weren’t as known as they are 0:03:03.329,0:03:10.260 nowadays and so I did it myself like with willpower yeah just yeah it 0:03:10.260,0:03:14.760 just took me a lot of tears and I couldn’t in the end I couldn’t just yeah 0:03:14.760,0:03:23.790 relapsed again yeah is this horrible and last year what what happened and you 0:03:23.790,0:03:33.799 said I’m gonna try to quit again I turn 40 I had like a painful leg 0:03:33.799,0:03:38.849 because I don’t have an excellent circulation I think now is much much 0:03:38.849,0:03:46.680 better after that we have to say no more pain in my leg so it was definitely the 0:03:46.680,0:03:53.849 cigarettes and then the you know I’ve got two kids and I had to sneak out in 0:03:53.849,0:03:59.160 the garden every time like after the meals to light a cigarette they were 0:03:59.160,0:04:03.450 calling me because they wanted to play with me before a reading time before 0:04:03.450,0:04:10.650 going to bed and you know I started to to find it very horrible actually for 0:04:10.650,0:04:16.260 them they were they are nowadays also very aware of it so they know it’s 0:04:16.260,0:04:20.970 something bad they were saying mom when are you gonna quit why do you do it 0:04:20.970,0:04:26.500 do you really need to smoke and I was asking a great question 0:04:26.500,0:04:34.630 yeah they get to challenge myself when I said listen it’s now or never it’s now 0:04:34.630,0:04:43.830 or never and I did it thanks to you Nasia well I’m very happy you found this program 0:04:43.830,0:04:51.940 what made you decide to try the CBQ method because well I tried patches 0:04:51.940,0:05:00.910 before mm-hmm well last time yeah they I mean they take the anxiety of the 0:05:00.910,0:05:05.800 urges off but you still have the cigarettes going on in your mind 0:05:05.800,0:05:12.370 so that and yeah just addicted to them you still addicted to them the 0:05:12.370,0:05:21.150 difference with your program was that that um you start from the deep roots of 0:05:21.150,0:05:26.200 smoking so where are the deep roots that’s what I found and you start 0:05:26.200,0:05:33.870 thinking about why what is making you continue smoking and all that stuff and 0:05:33.870,0:05:40.290 it makes a difference actually when when you when you go so deeply and just like 0:05:40.290,0:05:45.970 analyzing why you do it um well it’s different just have to say 0:05:45.970,0:05:49.930 it’s different I didn’t need any vaping I didn’t need patches I didn’t need I 0:05:49.930,0:05:57.669 only needed some boxing equipment that was really cool 0:05:57.669,0:06:04.750 I enjoyed the boxing oh also you did replace smoking with boxing yeah and you 0:06:04.750,0:06:12.220 bought a home equipment well my son has one so I I hung well the thing 0:06:12.220,0:06:18.610 don’t even know what is the name and I mean and and then I imagine myself 0:06:18.610,0:06:23.800 looking at the cigarette yeah does it look like a little cigarette and 0:06:23.800,0:06:34.030 then just box to it it was amazingly relaxing hmm I’m very fun I 0:06:34.030,0:06:39.910 think like fighting smile yeah it was easy and you 0:06:39.910,0:06:44.620 exercise you blow off some steam very very nice 0:06:44.620,0:06:50.080 great choice yeah I’m happy yeah I was happy at the time I chose because it 0:06:50.080,0:06:54.490 made me feel so much better I mean the anxiety went as well because you’re 0:06:54.490,0:07:00.790 obviously doing exercise and and yeah it’s a sport i sweat as well so I 0:07:00.790,0:07:05.020 burn some calories I did everything in one perfect 0:07:05.020,0:07:09.430 so obviously that helped you a lot on your journey 0:07:09.430,0:07:17.730 what other part of the program or your coping strategies helped you succeed 0:07:18.890,0:07:28.610 so I started to have a better food better food like healthier food I will 0:07:28.610,0:07:34.070 as well so I introduced to my diet avocados okay 0:07:34.070,0:07:40.340 say you know in Spain when or maybe my home we’re not very used to have 0:07:40.340,0:07:46.610 Ricardo’s and in in England they they are and they still have few friends and 0:07:46.610,0:07:49.940 they started to talk about the vitamins and whatever and I start to be 0:07:49.940,0:07:56.990 more focused on on the healthy food like going deeper and see what what the 0:07:56.990,0:08:01.970 advantages are and at the end to have better skin appearance as well because 0:08:01.970,0:08:07.340 yes avocados are great yeah yeah the cigarettes damage your skin a lot yes 0:08:07.340,0:08:11.710 yes that’s true what else helped you along the way 0:08:11.710,0:08:18.230 exercising even if it’s going out for the walk for half an hour if you don’t 0:08:18.230,0:08:25.550 have time to go to the gym yeah whatever to have some fresh air yeah you are 0:08:25.550,0:08:35.530 stuck in your chores or job problems just anything that gives you some some 0:08:35.530,0:08:40.969 good well-being right like dancing as well because I like dancing I 0:08:40.969,0:08:46.190 particularly like dancing with my kids and listening to the music yeah anything 0:08:46.190,0:08:53.300 you you enjoy basically will help where are you doing those things before or 0:08:53.300,0:08:58.370 you started doing them more when you quit smoking I started so I 0:08:58.370,0:09:05.420 started to do them more when I quit but I yeah I used to do them before also but 0:09:05.420,0:09:12.740 less it’s true less less time cause I didn’t have much time to that very 0:09:12.740,0:09:19.790 interesting and I know you told me in the past year you had to overcome a lot 0:09:19.790,0:09:27.350 of tempting situations can you tell me more about what they were and how you 0:09:27.350,0:09:30.900 overcame them because I think this can be very very helpful 0:09:30.900,0:09:36.460 it was a challenge I mean going out with your gin tonic or whatever the red wine 0:09:36.460,0:09:41.470 in your hands and not having the cigarette in the other hand yeah it’s uh 0:09:41.470,0:09:47.980 it’s quite tough but once you do it and honestly you drink a couple of glasses 0:09:47.980,0:09:54.160 of wine and the next day you just wake up there’s no coughing there’s no 0:09:54.160,0:09:59.560 horrible smell taste in your mouth that’s not it’s no it’s nothing 0:09:59.560,0:10:06.610 yeah you tie it because you went to bed late but um you feel great and that’s 0:10:06.610,0:10:12.220 another thing that you need to learn to enjoy from now on great I love that you 0:10:12.220,0:10:16.720 said that so in the moment where you you were with your friends 0:10:16.720,0:10:22.270 there was the strong association with cigarettes that you hadn’t had the 0:10:22.270,0:10:25.690 chance to break it because it was something you hadn’t experienced as a 0:10:25.690,0:10:32.440 nonsmoker yet what did you do in that moment that allowed you to enjoy 0:10:32.440,0:10:39.010 yourself and your friends without having to smoke so it’s it quickly came to my 0:10:39.010,0:10:48.700 mind your words like observe and identify the double trigger okay and I 0:10:48.700,0:10:55.390 actually did and I assumed it I accepted it and I said listen now this is over 0:10:55.390,0:11:02.770 and you have to learn to enjoy yourself without it and yeah was like giving a 0:11:02.770,0:11:07.360 lesson to myself because you have to talk to yourself sometimes to realize 0:11:07.360,0:11:15.730 and to be aware of it and yeah it worked I I just accepted it and and it helped 0:11:15.730,0:11:24.280 me but another thing that helped me a lot I have to say is um just realizing 0:11:24.280,0:11:31.600 that it’s it’s a life-changing experience and I mean that once once you 0:11:31.600,0:11:39.130 you say this is over you need to change your lifestyle yeah because otherwise if 0:11:39.130,0:11:44.560 you get stuck there and you follow the same patterns it might not work 0:11:44.560,0:11:49.959 so you need to introduce new new things and things that make you feel happy and 0:11:49.959,0:12:00.029 better happier what other things did you introduce the and change your lifestyle 0:12:00.389,0:12:07.329 well actually I have to say that I enjoyed watching a movie after the meal 0:12:07.329,0:12:14.410 like without having to go out cause it was the meal then the cigarette and then you 0:12:14.410,0:12:19.509 know and then watching a movie maybe but like having finished the meal and go to 0:12:19.509,0:12:26.470 the dining room to to watch a movie it’s amazing without having to well feel the 0:12:26.470,0:12:31.980 flavor that the bad flavor in your mouth and whatever mm-hmm another thing that makes you feel proud and full 0:12:31.980,0:12:39.009 these little things it’s a it’s a a chain of little things that make you 0:12:39.009,0:12:42.730 feel just great exactly and so that’s why I’m asking you 0:12:42.730,0:12:47.709 about it because a lot of people are struggling selecting and identifying 0:12:47.709,0:12:52.000 those little things that can make a massive difference in how you feel and 0:12:52.000,0:12:55.809 you not needing cigarettes so what you did was really smart 0:12:55.809,0:13:06.189 dinner movie it’s amazing helps I also have a thing that I found interesting is 0:13:06.189,0:13:13.089 like um I bought a few different teas yes so I’ve got different teas like la 0:13:13.089,0:13:22.660 camomile and then these liquorise with pepper peppercorn I think so these 0:13:22.660,0:13:27.910 little different things and every time I need to like have something in my mouth 0:13:27.910,0:13:34.600 because sometimes yeah whatever I go and have different tea so today I’m gonna 0:13:34.600,0:13:38.800 try another one I’m gonna take this one because I love it 0:13:38.800,0:13:44.889 or you can be a chewing gum I mean a minty chewing gum I love chewing I’m just so 0:13:44.889,0:13:52.959 but you know these things these little treats and I like the idea about the 0:13:52.959,0:13:57.180 teas because you have some variety trying always something new 0:13:57.180,0:14:03.990 no it’s good very nice so when when you feel everyone and we all experience 0:14:03.990,0:14:14.570 stress how do you manage stress as a nonsmoker I’m going out for a walk I 0:14:14.570,0:14:22.080 don’t at home you feel the atmosphere it’s overwhelmed yeah I go out for 0:14:22.080,0:14:30.440 a walk or I just go upstairs and sometimes take a bath if I have the time 0:14:30.440,0:14:38.010 I call a friend and just explain her whatever or having a chat with 0:14:38.010,0:14:44.760 my husband well it’s very helpful if you are just stressed for anything but in 0:14:44.760,0:14:55.590 the end it’s not worth it that’s a great mindset so one last question yeah 0:14:55.590,0:15:00.930 what advice or tips would you give to someone who’s struggling to succeed at 0:15:00.930,0:15:09.690 the moment so that nicotine addiction just lasts two or three weeks so don’t 0:15:09.690,0:15:14.600 worry you’re not gonna die you will overcome it 0:15:14.600,0:15:21.840 that is the mind power what will help you a lot so not the with the willpower 0:15:21.840,0:15:28.230 the mind power that as you said Nastia in your videos but it’s true but you 0:15:28.230,0:15:32.610 need to cultivate your change once you believe it just cultivate you change 0:15:32.610,0:15:37.260 that means change your lifestyle basically or introduce these little 0:15:37.260,0:15:44.240 things into your daily life and you’ll see the difference 0:15:47.190,0:15:55.170 yeah and do what you love to do thank you back you’ll see the feedback thank 0:15:55.170,0:15:59.699 you so much for sharing this that was very very helpful thank you so much very 0:15:59.699,0:16:05.879 good so as you all can see Rosa’s journey is a great example of perseverance and 0:16:05.879,0:16:09.779 resourcefulness she had ups and downs like everyone but 0:16:09.779,0:16:14.189 she stayed committed she used the power of her mind and she did it and this is 0:16:14.189,0:16:18.810 important to remember because there is no such thing as the perfect quit what 0:16:18.810,0:16:23.399 matters the most is how you approach it your mindset and your attitude so I hope 0:16:23.399,0:16:27.660 you learned a lot and that you enjoyed this as much as I did please let us know 0:16:27.660,0:16:31.290 in the comments what you took away from Rosa’s journey that can help you in yours 0:16:31.290,0:16:35.850 and Rosa thank you so much for being here and sharing your experience it was 0:16:35.850,0:16:43.769 really great and I know it’s gonna help a lot of people so thank you thank you 0:16:43.769,0:16:47.310 and thank you all for being here with us have a wonderful day and I’ll see you 0:16:47.310,0:16:49.790 next time